Michigan mom buys coffee for women behind her in line despite insulting comments about her looks

FORT GRATIOT, Mich. (WXYZ) - A few days ago a mother walked into a Fort Gratiot Tim Horton's.

That woman - Dianne Hoffmeyer - was with her 22-month-old, attempting to get donut holes to please the teething child. And, maybe, a coffee for her sleep deprived self.

At her nearby home today, she told us the tale that has now gone viral.

Two middle-aged women, standing in line behind her, unprovoked, lobbed hushed insults her way.  

"'Oh look at her hair, its nasty looking and the roots are coming through'," she recalled the women saying.

"'Oh she's a whale, oh the whale needs to eat'," they continued.

For Hoffmeyer the insults stung. She recently lost 177 pounds. The women, complete strangers, were unaware of her previous weight.

"I instantly started to cry, because it hurts. I don't know the women. I don't know why they would choose to say something like that."

But what she did next is what is surprising.

"I told the cashier, I'll pay for their coffee."

She then turned around, walked out and went to her car, where she cried.

She says she wanted to set a better example for her children by paying it forward rather than the impulse of lashing out at the duo.

She posted her encounter on Facebook. It has since exploded worldwide.

"To the 2 mean bitter ladies that were standing in line at Tim Hortons in Fort Gratiot behind me. I could hear you. I could hear the hurtful things you said about me. Sorry that my hair needs to be re-colored and the roots bothered you,but I have children that need to be taken care of. They come first. You both were right when you said I didnt need the small box of tim bits because I already looked... like a whale. Just so you know they were not for me. But for my sick 22 month old daughter who has kept me up all night crying and teething. I thought they might make her happy,yes I set aside the fact that they are not healthy because I wanted her to smile. You both made me cry. Then when I ordered a coffee that I RARELY get to treat myself to you both snickered and called me a "Retarded Lard Ass" I'll have you know I've worked hard to lose 177 lbs in 22 months. I am proud of myself. You both should be ashamed of yourselves.
But to show that my mother raised me better, I'd like to say YOUR WELCOME. Because this "Fat Retarded Lard Ass" paid it forward and I bought your coffee's this morning."

Should she encounter the women again, or should they read this, she says, "I'd like to buy them another cup of coffee, and talk to them. And explain to them how it made me feel."

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