Denver mom Val Starks shames daughter on Facebook for posing as 19 and posting racy pictures

Video viewed more than 10 million times

DENVER - A Denver mother's video on Facebook is going viral after she shamed her 13-year-old daughter for posting racy pictures and saying she was 19 years old.

"You're 13," the mother, Valerie Starks, says to the girl. "So why does your Facebook page say that your 19? Are you 19?"

The girl, whose face has been blurred in the video, says, "No."

"You've got a Facebook page and you're on there with your bra on, right?" Starks asks the girl. "Is that what you do?"

When the girl starts crying, Starks continues, "Don't cry now. You wasn't crying when you was posting pictures on Facebook, was you? In a bra? Some little girl in some lace panties that you know you don't own. You still wear panties that say Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday."

Starks told 7NEWS she was floored when she found her daughter's racy Facebook profile and the grown men she was connected with.

"She's had issues with Facebook in the past, at least four times in the past," Starks said. "She spent half of last summer on punishment after being on Facebook, and it wasn't even half as bad."

Starks said she explained to her daughter why she posted the video, which has now been viewed more than 10 million times.

"I said, 'I did this because I love you not because I really wanted to embarrass you,'" she said. "I wanted to make a statement and a stand for all parents that this is not going to be tolerated."

Most of the people who have commented on the video have supported Starks.

Karen Hall-Inglese wrote on Starks' Facebook page, "Now that's how you parent!! From one Mom to another good job!!"

Valeri Jones wrote on Facebook, "You're a good mom, Val. One day, she will understand and appreciate you."

But others have been critical, asking whether humiliating a child is good parenting.

Starks said she's glad the video has sparked conversation.

"Negative or not, maybe it made them think," Starks said.

As for her daughter, she says the girl has learned her lesson.

"She's not mad at me. Her friends are not bullying her at school, and she's OK," Starks said. "Next time she thinks about Facebook, she's going to remember this day."

Watch the video here. (The story continues after the video player.)



Posted by Val HairLyfe Starks on Sunday, May 17, 2015


Posted by Val HairLyfe Starks on Sunday, May 17, 2015

In the video, Starks included a message for the men on her daughter's Facebook page: "She's a kid and she's going to stay a kid. And as long as she's under my roof, she's going to do what I say."

The video lasts 5 minutes and 40 seconds.

Starks posted a second video on Monday thanking the people who supported her.

"I just wanted to say the word of the day is overwhelmed," Starks says. "I am truly overwhelmed with gratitude, I thank each and every one of you. I have over 5,000 friends now. Facebook won't let me accept any more."

She said she appreciates everyone calling her a great mom.

"It was really hard for me to do, but I didn't want to be another parent on Facebook putting out a video where I beat my child or anything like that," Starks said. "I wanted it to be something that showed from one mother to another mother, to the fathers out there struggling trying to raise a child or a teenage child, just to get them to be aware and to understand how serious it is and how important it is to be aware of what your child is doing at all times.

"Don't trust nothing they say," Starks said. "They lie, they're going to be sneaky. I was the one parent who would say, 'My daughter is not going to do that.'"

"Don't ever say what you won't do, or what your child won't do, because you don't know until it happens to you," Starks added.

Since posting the video, Starks says her Facebook page has maxed out.

"I have over 5,000 friends now," Starks said. "Facebook won't let me accept any more."

See Starks Facebook page.

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